Ghosts in the cellphone: Deleting Memories the Best Way to Move On

What’s the Story, Dorie?
by Lindsey Dorie

While purging old text message conversations on my phone, I stumbled across a photo from my past with a person I no longer know. I thought I had deleted everything, and it reminded me why I had: we looked so happy.

It’s been long enough now that I forget what that happiness felt like, and thank god for that. For shortly after our breakup I was so consumed with memories of the good times, I desperately tried to re-live them through our text messages and photographs. It’s more torturous than anything but when you’re miserable it’s the only thing that helps convince you that there was something great there, and it’s comforting to believe there was. But we all have our breaking points, and mine was the realization that I didn’t have the self-control to stay out of my past, so I made the decision to delete it all.

The only way to move forward is let go, and perhaps that’s why many of us don’t. We hold onto things that used to be in hopes that they will be again. But, like a band-aid, I advise you to remove the memory of what is hurting you most and move on with your life. What you don’t see can’t hurt you, and the less you see of your ex and all memories of them the better. You might be thinking that over-exposure of your once lover is going to make you numb to them and help you move on—I know this because I once thought that—wrong. The more you look at their face, the more you’ll begin to hate it, and you’ll just spend your days angry about a person in a photo who no longer exists in your life. So delete everything, and while you’re at it, un-friend them on social media, and for goodness sake if their one of those people with an open profile, resist the urge; they’re just trying to taunt you.

After months without looking at their memory and if you’re lucky having not bumped into them, you’ll eventually start to forget. That intense emotion you once experienced while seeing them will fade until one day, you’re over it.

Seeing the photo a year ago would have caused me great pain, but now, as I stared at two people I didn’t recognize, I felt nothing. The world has a funny way of presenting you with things in perfect timing. In a state of utter confusion and sadness following a breakup, it’s hard to let go of what was and why it is no longer, but deleting the evidence of someone really cleanses the soul at a time you need it most. There will always be memories of that person who at one point meant a lot to you, but let those take place in your head—your brain has a lot more storage than a phone anyway.

Left-overs? What left-overs? Fricassee to the rescue

Sometimes, only sometimes, I feel a little like a rabbit on the go. Perhaps even like the ever-ready bunny, always doing one thing or another, with something always happening in the kitchen at this time of year. From pastries to pies; from cookies to puddings: a one stop shop.

What to do? All the preparation of the festive season and mountains of turkey leftover! Sure, you can have sandwiches which are always great. Curry! Or even pan seared turkey with peppers over a salad. Awesome! But, me being me, I like to stick with something that brings the past to life.

Yup that’s right, a Fricassee. What’s that you may well ask? It is something that has become somewhat of a staple for me every time I roast a chicken, or any bird come to think of it. To many it is seen as a French stew, although without garlic. Weird, I know, but there you have it.

This dish not only allows you to revitalize your turkey, but dare I say even brings it back to life. With a rich creamy sauce, a delicate flavour of fresh herbs, mouth wateringly yummy is all I can say.

6 cups of picked cold turkey
1 small onion, thinly sliced
1 celery stalk, thinly sliced
1 carrot, thinly sliced
4 tablespoons butter
Pinch of salt and pepper (to taste)
3 tablespoons flour
3 cups hot chicken broth
1 cup white wine
4 sprigs fresh thyme
¼ cup finely chopped fresh parsley
1 medium white onion halved and thinly sliced
2 cups of roughly chopped Mushrooms
1 egg
½ cup whipping cream
¼ teaspoon of nutmeg
1 teaspoon lemon juice

In a wide saucepan, cook the onion, celery, and carrot with the 2 tablespoons of butter over a medium heat. Once they have softened ad your leftover turkey pieces.

Sprinkle in the salt, pepper, and flour, ensuring that all sides of the turkey are coated. Cover and cook for 2-3 minutes.

Pour in half a cup of wine, and let simmer for 5 minutes, leaving the alcohol to cook out. Then add the chicken broth, thyme, bay leaf, and parsley. Ensure that there is enough liquid to just cover the turkey. Cover and simmer gently for 10 minutes. Remove the turkey to a serving dish and set aside, while also removing the sprigs of thyme and bay leaf.

In a large saucepan, melt 2 tablespoons of butter then add your thinly sliced white onion and leave to simmer for 2 minutes. Then add your chopped mushrooms again simmer for 2 minutes and finely add to this your remaining ½ cup of wine. Simmer for 5 minutes.
Add your onion and mushroom mixture to your other saucepan and bring to a boil. Cook until the sauce reduces thick enough to coat the back of a spoon.

In a medium bowl, mix together the egg and cream. Slowly drizzle this into the sauce. Turn up the heat and bring to a boil. Once it boils turn off the heat, season to taste, add the nutmeg and lemon juice.
Pour the sauce over the turkey and serve with mashed potatoes and fresh vegetables of choice, now that’s what I am talking about. Enjoy folks.

In the Loop: Winnipeg entertainment events for January 2016

We tell you what’s coming up in the entertainment world during the next month

Billy Elliot The Musical
“I don’t want a childhood. I want to be a ballet dancer!”

The musical adaptation of the 2000 feature film comes to the John Hirsch Mainstage for MTC’s production of Billy Elliot The Musical. A heartwarming and inspiring story of a young boy who defies the odds, Billy Elliot The Musical has been dazzling audiences across the globe for nearly a decade. Despite the bitterness of the UK miners’ strike, Billy seems destined to follow his father and brother to the coal mines. But when he stumbles into a ballet class, his eyes are opened to a whole new world of opportunity. With unforgettable music by Elton John and sensational dance, Billy Elliot The Musicalis a feel-good celebration that shows us what it means to fight for our dreams. Running from January 12 to February 6, visit for ticket information.

Maple Leaf Monster Jam
With three weekend shows, including one on SUNDAY, SUNDAY, SUNDAY! Monster trucks are coming to the MTS Centre on the 30th and 31st of January. Featuring Zombie, Monster Mutt and the Canadian crowd-pleaser Northern Nightmare. Grave Digger is NOT scheduled to be at this event, but the other trucks are more than capable of entertaining you, your child or your inner-child. It promises to be a high-flying, car-crunching good time. If you’re in the mood for fun, fun, fun, check out the website or head to Ticketmaster to book a seat.

Winnipeg New Music Festival 2016
It’s the 25th anniversary of the Winnipeg New Music Festival and they are throwing a party! Epic music is the flavour of the year. Gavin Bryars’ Sinking of the Titanic, Joan Towers’ Concerto for Orchestra plus headline guests David Lang, co-founder of New York’s Bang on a Can, and artist/musician/composer/explorer/icon Stephen O’Malley. All past composers-in-residence including Glenn Buhr (co-founder with Bramwell Tovey of the WNMF), Randolph Peters, Pat Carrabré and Vincent Ho will be represented with conductor Gary Kulesha. We will flip the Concert hall on its head with all seating on stage for mid-week concerts. Plus food, art, adventure, discovery, parties and much more than can be captured here! Tickets can be purchased at, with the festival running from January 23 to January 29.

Vance Joy: The Fire and the Flood Tour
If you have somehow managed to snag yourself tickets to this show, good on you! The show is scheduled for January 19th at the Burton Cummings Theatre, and is already listed as sold out on Vance Joy’s website. The Australian singer-songwriter is currently touring in support of his debut album, Dream Your Life Away. The album features songs ‘Fire and the Flood’, ‘Georgia’ and their big hit ‘Riptide’. You can find out more info about him at and I recommend checking out his music videos as well.

Hockey at the MTS Centre
After closing out 2015 with a game, the Moose come back the next day for a New Year’s Day game against Iowa, followed by 6 more matchups in the first 13 days of the month, before a lengthy roadtrip. The Jets start the month on the road, before playing 7 of 8 at the MTS Centre, including two against Nashville.

The Wonderful Wedding Show
The Wonderful Wedding Show is coming the RBC Convention Centre on the weekend of January 23 and 24. The consumer event features over 400 displays and 100,000 square feet of the latest must-have wedding fashions and trends, wedding products and services, and much more.

Brides will also receive a complimentary Gift Bag, V.I.B. pink lanyard, Show Guide, and admission to the Brides Lounge located next to the Registration Room for wine sampling and treats! For more information, or to buy tickets, visit their site at

Black Sabbath: The End Tour
OZZY! …and the other two members of Black Sabbath (guitarist Tommy Iommi and bassist Geezer Butler) will be gracing the MTS Centre on January 27. They are members of the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, and have been ranked by MTV as the ‘greatest metal band’ of all time. Hit songs include Iron Man and War Pigs, which are highly recognizable even if you aren’t a fan of the genre. Tickets are available through Ticketmaster. For more information, visit

What kind of creator are you?

by Alex Varricchio, Think Shift

You’re a creative professional, skilled in the art of problem solving. Someone has a business or brand challenge and engages your team to help solve it.

After developing the brief, you probably start by holding a brainstorm, gathering together various members of the team: planners, designers and anyone else who might provide good perspective. You all jump in a room and start throwing ideas out. Sometimes these meetings are successful; sometimes they aren’t.
One thing is consistent though – depending on the mix of people in the room, your results will vary. Significantly.
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