By Jennifer Donovan-Faubert (photo by Jeroen Komen)
Moving can be a highly stressful thing to do. I’m not just talking about packing up your boxes and moving a few blocks away – even though the process of packing and transporting your items has its own stressors. I mean a bigger move – a “starting fresh” move to a different town, city, province, or country.
I have moved 14 times over four provinces. Five times as a kid (Dad was in the RCMP) and then nine more as an adult.
Whether the move is to get into a great program at a different school; find new job opportunities in the line of work you want to pursue or have been trained in; bridge the distance between you and your love to make the relationship work; or you just need a fresh start – whatever the reason, you go through the same process about a month after landing in your new place of residence. It can happen sooner for some, or if you have moved for love, it may happen later – but nevertheless, you get an overwhelming feeling of “What the heck am I doing here?”
This feeling, a strange combination of buyer’s remorse and being a fish out of water, can come on suddenly – I once had a breakdown because I couldn’t find decent pizza in my new area – or it starts off as a nagging feeling and fully develops once you have placed everything around your new abode and you start to dwell on the massive change that has just occurred.
Forget the fact that you have to learn all the new noises that happen at night before you fall asleep, or that your bathroom may be in a different area, so when you get up in the middle of the night, you walk into a wall the first time.
But the main thing you need to overcome is the “missing” feeling – I miss my friends/family, I miss my job/school, I miss my house/neighbourhood, I miss my coffee shop/daily routine. Having to establish “a life” again is a huge undertaking. Developing a business network, finding people to do things with, creating friendships again… these always seem to be the hardest. Connecting with new people is even tougher when you’re creating that connection out of thin air.
Finding like-minded people is the key; JCI can be, and has been, a great source for me. I have found friendships that have lasted, clients to work for, and people to grow a business with. There are always events to attend – a good reason to get out of your new house!
And the fact that JCI is international meant there was always a chapter in any of the new centres I moved to. Between the casual mixers, the courses and seminars, and the volunteering aspects – I had a great way to meet new people, develop a couple of new skills, and finally… to feel at home again.
You too can get involved. Join us at a JCI Winnipeg’s Month End Mixer to share your vision of a better community, engage JCI members toward betterment, and discover the avenues of potential and impact that exist within JCI Winnipeg. Visit jciwinnipeg.blogspot.ca for more information.